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Thursday, January 16, 2014

Yes, We are Alive. Who knew?!!?

Tap, tap.  Tap, tap.

Hello? Is this thing on?

(Corny, I know. Forgive me, y'all - I'm totally out of practice.)

Where do I even begin?  I guess I should start by confessing that I have absolutely No Valid Reason for dropping off the face of the blog world.  Except that Squirt gave up her nap before her second birthday. And I guess I'm just not as good at time management as many of y'all. No nap = little blogging time for Momma.  And then there was the fact that - for more than a year - the Tongginator nixed any and all stories about her, as is her right. Plus the Husband wasn't too happy with the amount of time I sat in front of the computer each evening, probably because it had grown to astronomical proportions. To be honest, I - and everyone else in my family - grew exhausted just thinking about the blog, so I put it to the side for awhile.

And then life just kinda kept chugging along.

Until suddenly over two years had passed.

But one day last winter, I posted something on my real life Facebook account.  It was something funny Squirt had said; and my friend and neighbor Mrs. O commented, "sounds like it's time to start up the blog again."  Which got me thinking.  And thinking.  Especially since I received a few emails the following week from some sweethearts who shared bits of their personal stories with me, hard roads they are walking with attachment.  And then several months ago quime posted on the Rumor Queen forum, asking if anyone had heard from me.

No one answered... not even me.

And it's been eating at me ever since.

We are all doing really well. The Tongginator somehow managed to become nearly-ten-years-old while I wasn't looking. She's still very much the Tongginator some days, but most of the time she's a strange mix of Tongginator/ tween/ proper young lady/ needy youngster. I don't know how she manages to pull that look off with just a pair of jeans, a sparkly t-shirt and boots, but it works for her.  Fourth grade has been wonderful so far - for the first time ever, we didn't hear any "social concerns" during the fall parent/teacher conference. One real concern is perfectionism, which continues to plague her, causing her to have Meltdowns Of Epic Proportions should she fail to receive a "good grade," whatever that means. But she's enjoying school for the most part, especially chorus, writing class and violin. She learned to swim and ride a two-wheel bike last year, which made my momma's heart swell with pride. (It was a long time coming, y'all. She worked so, so hard.) She's learning to ride a horse.  And the child who once couldn't get enough Mei Mei and Jade told me last summer that she's had it with Chinese School. She wants O-U-T out.

(How in the world did that happen?)

Parenting?  There is definitely a learning curve, y'all.  And once you feel you've mastered one child and/or developmental stage, another curve ball comes racing at you.

Squirt is three-and-a-half-years-old, which absolutely boggles my mind.  She's very, very different from the Tongginator in personality, but man, oh man she still keeps me on my toes.  This child loves to learn.  And I don't mean pick up a few facts here and there, I mean she devours information like a t-rex devours a stegosaurus.  And if that reference seems completely out of left field, it's because it is... for ME.  But not for our science geek Squirt: she loves dinosaurs, and outer space, and Doc McStuffins and - Lord help me - insects.

Oh, and she also loves fairy tales and nursery rhymes, especially those centered on princesses.  Because she likes to be consistent like that.  And because she likes to drive her Womens' Studies Minor in College Momma Cray-Zee. I tell y'all, if I have to read Little Golden Book's "The Princess and the Pea" one! more! time!, the author may end up as black-and-blue as that princess.  I never thought I'd say this, but I much prefer the Tongginator's butterfly stage to Squirt's Cinderella obsession. And no, she's never seen the movie.  She loves James Marshall's version of the book.

(I'm wondering if she thinks she has too many chores for a three-year-old.)

The Husband and I are doing well, although we had to deal with another hospitalization this past spring, this time for the husband.  He had another bout of pericarditis - same heart thing as last time, except this time his enzyme levels never rose above two, whereas last time they approached thirty. Basically that means this time he didn't Almost! Die!, it was just a major inconvenience for a couple of weeks as we dealt with a short hospital stay and home recovery time.

The good news is that Squirt has not been hospitalized for almost two years now.  She narrowly avoided a hospital stay this past November for pneumonia, but several kids in our area came down with pneumonia this past autumn, so it wasn't too terribly concerning.  Overall, Squirt's health is great... as long as she's completely gluten-free.  We've had one accidental exposure and it was... not fun.  She ended up having seizures and dealing with a severe infection that required a fifteen-day round of Leviquin.  All from two measly little pretzels.

So we are careful.

And I cook a lot.

Like, a lot a lot.

Which means I won't ever blog like I once did, but I may pop in occasionally to check in with y'all.  And because I absolutely love to write.  I hope y'all are well.  I hope y'all forgive me for killing my blog and then resurrecting it years later.  I hope y'all are loving well, and looking forward.

I hope...

31 comments:

Tricia said...

Hello!!! Glad to hear you all are doing well. Take care and I look forward to hearing from you when you pop back in. :)

Vicki said...

Just this week - no kidding - I thought of you and wondered if and when we might hear from you once more. And then I went back and read some of your blog posts....because some folks in the blogosphere become as familiar as friends and actually, seem more like family. I have seriously missed the wisdom (and the laughs) you've shared with your readers. Thanks for "opening your home" and sharing your heart. Good to know you all are doing well!

Casa Bicicleta said...

Holy cow I cannot believe you are back. I just couldn't bring myself to delete your blog from my blog roll because it felt like saying goodbye forever. And now I'm so glad I didn't delete you or I would never have known you were back!

So happy to hear that squirt is doing well and the the Togginator is growing and thriving.
I guess I'm just happy to see you back.

Missed you.

Journeywoman said...

Welcome back! Since you left we finally got our referral for our own little one and we now chase around a 20 month old who just learned to walk. I've been going to your archives reading stuff and it has been an enormous help.

Welcome back!

Beach Mama said...

So good to hear from you! I have missed you, but certainly understand as I have pretty much given up on blogging..not enough energy with everything. I spend more time on FB and Pinterest than Than I should.

Cedar said...

So NICE to hear from you and I hope you are able to post occasionally. I was just thinking the other day that I needed to hunt down your real facebook page just to see you were all allright. As for dropping off...oh, I understand! 4 kids pushed me over the edge and blogging is low on the list of things to do. Have to go put my 2 1/2 year old down for a nap...

Larissa said...

So Glad you're doing well and so happy you're back!
Love your blog and your posts...
Love,
Larissa, from Brazil.

One Thankful Mom said...

So good to see you! I've kept you in my Feedly all this time, wondering, worrying a little. I'm happy to read that life has just been busy. I hear you about the demands of blogging - it's a treadmill of sorts, a good one most of the time, but it can get the best of you and take too much time away from real family life. I constantly struggle with the balance of it all. All that to say - glad you're back.

The Energizer Mommy said...

Yay, an update! I have to say thank you, you motivated me to try gluten free with my little girl and it finally helped her stop waking up crying in pain after a year and a half. I can't promise that's what did it, but it did line up perfectly timing wise. So thank you. Reading about you guys doing it made it seem possible for us. Glad you're all well!

Sarah said...

So thankful that you popped in to say hi. I use your blog as a reference... especially your book lists. You have been a blessing to many adoptive families for a long time. I can't imagine all of the work that goes into being strictly gluten free. Thrilled to hear the kids are doing so well.

Linette said...

Happy to see you back! And I hear ya on the cooking. We're gluten free for different reasons and don't have to be nearly as strict as you all, but still, pretty much everything we eat is cooked from scratch. Healthy, no doubt, but it does take TIME! But thanks for taking a minute to let all those of you who don't know your family in real life know that you're fine.

Sharie Greif said...

Hello!! So happy to see your update and that all is well. My crazy imagination had you dealing with all sorts of horrible issues.
Hope you'll post more than once every two years so we know what's up, but I totally get T not wanting you to tell stories- Amelia has to check my Facebook posts;)

planetnomad said...

YAAY! Welcome back :) We've all missed you. But I just figured you were busy with life. There's more material and opportunity for blogging at different stages, that's for sure. I never killed my blog, but I hardly ever post anymore. We were able to visit N Africa again in the fall and I'm still trying to blog about it. But I need to be careful about how much I blog about my current friends, so that kind of kills it sometimes.
Thanks for the update!

Carrie said...

I've wondered about you and your family for a while. I wondered how the gluten free food was going as we did a test run of it. Boy oh boy was it hard on all of us. Glad to get an update.

Diva Maman said...

I have missed you! Glad you're back, and I hear ya on the time to blog thing...

Jboo said...

Great update! I wondered about you all! Glad to hear everyone is doing well!

heather said...

So good to see you pop up in my feed! Welcome back!!!!! I can't believe how big your girls are now!!

Cassi said...

I am SO glad to hear from you. I have missed you and worried about you!

Yeah, that darn life, it does seem to have a tendency of getting in the way of other things, but it always seems to be for the best, in the end.

I'm just so glad to know you and your wonderful family are doing okay!

Kimberly said...

So SO good to hear from you, TM! I am right there on the whole life vs. blog thing (I think the last time I posted was 2011?!) but I keep you on my blog roll along with other favorite bloggy friends. Was delighted to hear all the updates on you and your girls! Time flies when you are having fun, doesn't it?! Take care!

Shecki Grtlyblesd said...

:D Squee! I just just just post on RQ about you the other day, wishing you were still blogging! There was a thread about NSN families getting kids that turn out to have SN after all.

Anonymous said...

Thought of you today after reading this article. Glad I checked in and glad everyone is so well!
http://peaceshannon.tumblr.com/post/73905300454/why-im-an-adoptee-who-is-against-the-babybox

Anonymous said...

Good to hear that all is well. It is good to hear your 'voice' again. Keep well.

3cmum said...

Welcome back. So delighted the family is all right and its wonderful to hear your voice again!

The Gang's Momma! said...

OH SO GLAD to see you back in my reader feed :) Have missed your posts. It's hilarious that we both started back slowly at the same time. Hoping it's a start to my new-re-normal.

And I'm not sure how to get in touch with Kimberly, above, but girl? I miss your comments and checking in. How's your gang?! Send me an email or something :)

bbmomof2boys said...

Hello!!! Glad you are back and blogging again! (heh..I haven't blogged in...forever!). Glad the kids are doing great - we need to hook up on FB! :)

Hugs,
Carla

Ashley said...

Long time blog reader, nice to see you back at it and to know that your family is doing well. Figured life got the best of you, but a little bit of me worried something had happened. Glad that wasn't the case.

Mahmee said...

Hey there lady! Nice to hear your 'voice'. I'm glad that everything has been going well with Squirt's health. I've gotten pretty good at this gluten free life myself and like you, I cook A LOT. The Tongginator is almost TEN?! Good grief. My Sparkly girl just turned eight. (sigh) Ah, where does the time go? Glad you are back.
M.

Briana's Mom said...

I'm so glad I you are blogging a bit again! Yay!!

Andrea said...

so crazy! I just pulled mine up for the kids to see. I wondered how many of my old bloggy friends were still on here. miss you guys!!

Anonymous said...

Hey!! That was me asking about you on ChAT!
And I just decided to see if you'd started again, as we are adopting again. Glad to see you are back and can't wait to catch up. Happy cooking.
BQ

Anonymous said...

Hey!! That was me asking about you on ChAT!
And I just decided to see if you'd started again, as we are adopting again. Glad to see you are back and can't wait to catch up. Happy cooking.
BQ