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Thursday, June 16, 2011

We Made The Ayis Cry

On the day we met Mei Mei, the director of her orphanage and several caregivers traveled with six babies to Guangzhou.  In Jiangxi Province, when we met the Tongginator in 2005, officials gave us the opportunity to ask questions both on the day we met the Tongginator and the following day, our formal adoption day.  With Mei Mei, we had about two hours to talk with the caregivers, during an extremely emotional time. 

I’m glad I wrote down my questions ahead of time, otherwise I wouldn’t have remembered a thing.

We learned our daughter’s nickname, although I’m not sure how often they used it with her.  With 25 to 30 babies in a room, and only two caregivers, I’m sure they had their hands full simply changing diapers and making bottles.  We learned a few facts about Mei Mei’s daily life, but even the two caregivers disagreed on some facts, so I don’t feel too confident about all of the information.  We didn’t receive a developmental report, nor did we receive a written schedule, so we’re learning about Mei Mei as the days inch forward, just as she is learning about us.

When I talked with Mei Mei’s favorite caregiver, I peppered her with questions, asking everything from “is there anything you remember about the day she first came to the orphanage?” to “what comforts her?” to “did she have a cribmate?”  It was that last question that brought tears to everyone’s eyes.  Because, y’all, we are traveling with a family from Minnesota who adopted their daughter, Nixie Knox, from the Tonggu SWI on the same day, in the same room, that we adopted the Tongginator.  And their newly adopted youngest daughter, Little Lola Lopp, is from the same orphanage as Mei Mei.

Even more special is that Little Lola Lopp and Mei Mei shared a crib.

They were cribmates, y’all.

Which means our two oldest knew one another in China before we ever met them.  And our two youngest knew one another in China, before we ever met them.  This doesn’t happen… or at least I’ve never heard of it happening before, not in real life, and not on-line. When Mei Mei’s ayi pointed to Little Lola Lopp after I asked about Mei Mei’s cribmate, I called out to my travelmate and friend, the Queen of Quincy, to tell her the news.  Tears welled up in her eyes.  They welled up in my own.  And when the ayis saw our tears, they asked our translator what was going on.  She shared with them our story.

And they cried, too.

Even the director of the orphanage became emotional when he heard.

The connection our two families share, because of our four girls, will always be with us.  I can’t believe our two youngest shared such a special connection during their first year in the orphanage.  And I can’t believe that our two oldest, already so connected, were able to become big sisters together.

The sting of the five year wait has disappeared for me.

Completely.

65 comments:

K and/or K said...

I have no words...this is AMAZING!

Crying just reading this!

What a SPECIAL story and relationship. WOW!

3cmum said...

Tears too..

That is utterly amazing.

Just incredible!

AwesomeCloud and family said...

Wow. That is very, very cool.

We have no connections at all to anyone. We didn't even travel with any other families. I'm glad Cloud is friendly and outgoing, because if he wants his parents to make connections for him, we got nuthin'.

Johnny said...

Holy Moley.

Robin said...

Wow!

The Payne Family Blog said...

That is truly the most amazing story I have ever heard!!! God ordained for sure!!

Lindy D. said...

God is with you.

the meaklims said...

Wow. It's a God story.

Rebekah said...

Such an incredible God story!!! And what a special bond your families will always have!

Rita and John said...

What a powerful story showing God's plan in bringing two families together.

Laurie said...

Okay,with a story like that, I can forgive you for not providing pictures today! :) Sometimes there are some really good reasons why things happen in God's time and not our own. This sounds like one of those things!! LOVE this story!!

Myrnie said...

Amazing!! God is good :)

Girly Girl Mommy said...

5 years is such a long time, but His timing is perfect in every way! Amazing!!

Truly Blessed said...

Wonderful news. We were so fortunate to meet the cribmates (twins) of our daughter when we were at the White Swan. We are so glad to have this connection for our three girls. I'm so glad you found BOTH of your girls' cribmates!!

Kim K. said...

Simply amazing.

The Byrd's Nest said...

So amazing...I cannot believe this:)

Holly said...

I am covered with chills. WOW!! So how is she doing? Is she sleeping? Eating? crying? withdrawn? Eagerly awaiting more! :)

Logical Libby said...

Thank you for sharing this with us. It is so nice to hear such an amazing studios connection in adoption

Rhonda said...

Wonderful story!

Sarah said...

I'm sobbing... just sobbing. Simply put, it's a God thing. He had a hand in this. Your families are now even more forever tied. Now let me go find some tissues...

organicnerd said...

Oh, my skin just has the shivers from that great story! Well, and from how much God is looking out for you and blessing your families so abundantly!

Sharie said...

#1 I'm amazed you got 2 hours with the caregivers. We got 0 time. We spoke only with the orphanage director. Even the day we drove 4 hours each way to the SWI we only had about 30 minutes. It is simply amazing that the Mei Meis were crib mates. Amazing!

Football and Fried Rice said...

Goosebumps! But really, isn't that how God works sometimes?! Full of surprises!!

Patricia/NYC said...

OH WOW!!!! That is incredibly amazing!!

Rachel said...

Absolutely amazing, such a God thing! I've got tears in my eyes too!

prechrswife said...

Wow, what a special gift! God is amazing!

Journeywoman said...

I'm crying too. How wonderful!

Kayce said...

I love when God's plans unfold right in front of our eyes! What an incredible blessing!!!!

LucisMomma said...

Wonderful, Wonderful!!

happygeek said...

That is truly amazing.
Wow.

Cedar said...

Reading in awe and tears...

Mary Beth said...

Chills. Just chills.

shelley said...

That was God's many blessings given to you guys for your unbelievable wait. Thanks so much for sharing your journey with us.

Suzy said...

God's timing is perfect, but knowing that, believing it doesn't make the wait easy at the time - just worth it once the waiting is over ; )

planetnomad said...

I love it when God shows us why he has done something. :) :) :)

luna said...

oh I have such chills reading this! and tears. how wonderful for all of you! sounds like you've made family friends for life. your travel budget will now need to include visits to MN.

Aus said...

We've learned many things through adoption - and feel that we've come to know you and your family this way too....and we agree about the 'imperfectness' of adoption....and many more aspects of growing our family this way too.

But when we see something like this (and I've never ever heard of anything THIS remarkable!) - then it becomes clear to me that whatever your Belief's - the Hand of the Almighty Blesses this process and these families!

I've got chills, more than a few tears, and great joy in my heart - it don't get much more perfect than this in our world!

hugs - aus and co.

epin said...

What an incredible connection! Wow.

Saint Louis Family Robinson said...

UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!!! Yep, completely clear now! Answers all the questions about the wait, about why this orphanage vs Tonggu...

WOW!!!!! UNbelievable....

Cavatica said...

Wow. Just wow.

bbmomof2boys said...

Just makes you realize how good God is and just what a small world we live in!

Hugs,
Carla

The Gang's Momma! said...

Amazing. Simply incredible. Only God, my friend. Only God. What a beautiful tale you will all have to tell your four girls in the years to come. May HE use it for HIS glory as a testament to HIS faithfulness and intimate care of HIS children!

Hugs to you from PA - love following your story!

LBC said...

Everything in the appointed time!

snekcip said...

Designed and orchestrated by God....no doubt in my heart and mind.

Foxxy One said...

Oh, I'm all verklempt!

A friend and I decided to adopt about a month apart. She joined our adoption agency a month after we did. She got her referral of her son a month after we did. Then, the weirdness started. We'd get each other's photos, the medical reports would get swapped (I'd get her son's she get mine). Finally, a picture arrived of my friend's son - she called me and said "either that orange outfit your son has been wearing in a lot of his photos is really popular in Guatemala or our boys are in the same foster home." She was right - our boys were foster brothers. It's never happened before or since. They have a link that they will share the rest of their lives.

sara said...

I have chills and giant tears rolling down my face. What an amazing connection.

heather said...

Crying...that is so special and an incredible bond to both each other and to their birth country!

delucchi family said...

Wow, that is awesome!!!! hugs xxx

OneThankfulMom said...

So beautiful - I'm glad I popped over to check in!

Kohana said...

So happy for you! May these days be full of grace and provision for each of you.

Alyson and Ford said...

Beyond amazing! Such joy for all of you! Congrats!

Alyzabeth's Mommy

Cristina said...

God-incidence working it's wonders again!! xxxxxxxxx

Wanda said...

What an a.m.a.z.i.n.g. gift!!!! I'm in awe!

Aunt LoLo said...

Oh, God is in the details, isn't he? Crying again. What an amazing journey for you all...and what faith you have shown to be entrusted with this story.

mumma to many said...

That is so amazing! Our friends have just been referred a girl from Jiangxi and she has Alice's forever family date as her birthday now between us we have 4 Jiangxi babies all different SWI's but I sure the connection will grow!
Hugs Ruth in NZ

Michelle said...

(blogger freaked on me the first time I left a comment, don't know if you saw that one or not)....

I have chills (and tears) reading this, my friend. There are no words.

Sending love from half way around the world.....

Tam-A-Roo said...

I have goosebumps and the little hairs on the back of my neck are still standing on end! I love that there is a connection that was orchestrated with such precision that there is no doubt that it was certainly meant to be!

kitchu said...

oh damn now i am crying like a baby. gotta go get a tissue.

what a blessing. for life. for LIFE.

Annie said...

Tears here too!!!! WOW!

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

Absolutely unbelievable...... what are the chances of that? Definitely one in a million.....and I guess y'all are that one!

The Ayis are not the only ones cryin..... this is AMAZING.

xoxo,

Lisa

Mia's Mommy said...

Alright.. shedding tears over that one myself. Absolutely amazing. Such a gift, truly.

Catherine said...

God is SO GOOD!!! What a beautiful link your families will share forever!

anymommy said...

Oh my heart. So happy for you all.

the_blissful_mommy said...

Seriously. Way to make us ALL weep buckets. Dude. That's unreal. Go, God!!!!

Dita said...

Identical to the sting of the 9 months of pregnancy and the birth completely disappearing upon seeing that child...there is NO DIFFERENCE in how your child gets here(having experienced BOTH ways...believe me, I know)..it is the love we feel at setting eyes upon the child we have longed for and know...without a doubt, has been missing from our hearts all our lives...
so very happy for your new arrival, TM.....just thrilled!

Hugs!
Dita