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Friday, September 24, 2010

My Daisy's Courage

subtitled Part 3 of 2 ... yeah, I never said I was a good planner

I know I'm mean, y'all. I figured if I had to wait all day, pacing the floors like Lindsey Lohan during her first day of rehab, then y'all should, too! (Actually, what really happened was that I lost my camera cord for a day or two. I couldn't download a picture of her creation until yesterday.)

Anyways, I know y'all want to know what happened at the Daisy meeting. I'm not sure exactly, since I decided in the end that I should NOT attend. I also chose not to approach Random Mom again, asking questions, because I didn't want to bring up such a personal topic any more than was necessary. Plus, I know this momma... if Something of Major Proportion occurred, she'd fill me in. All of that to say I'm still not exactly sure what happened, but the Tongginator arrived home carrying this:


And I feel so blessed that my little gal was able to remain true to herself without sharing information that she might possibly regret sharing one day. Or maybe she wouldn't regret it. But we don't know yet because she's only six. Which means she has a voice, but it's still my job to help her fully develop it.

31 comments:

Sherri said...

Awesome! That made me smile!

Aus said...

I'm so proud of her! Great series of posts - and ones that we adoptive folks can really deal with! Glad that she did what was best for her - and well - ya know I think you did pretty dang well yourself!

hugs - aus and co.

Tonggu Grammy said...

That creation is a "keeper" for sure! And the Daisy Mom -- she's a keeper too for deciding to ask for volunteers instead of going around the circle AND for letting them write down their individual responses. And SHE was courageous for showing up to her assigned post when she feared what TM's response might be.

Buckeroomama said...

I just want to give her a big hug!

lmgnyc said...

I think it's great that she shared what she did at this point in time in just the way she did. Those other little girls probably understood a fraction of what her words really meant and the Togginator got to practice what it feels like to share something so personal.

Wendy said...

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww!

Dawn said...

All around awesomeness on everyone's part...

How you handled talking with T and the other Daisy mom, the Daisy mom's reponse and handling, and certainly T.

Be blessed!

Kelley said...

You know, I love how you can have such in-depth conversations with your girl...and I appreciate how you share your words on your blog. It's very, VERY helpful!!!

prechrswife said...

Love it!

snekcip said...

Happy ending to a beautiful blog post!

sara said...

What an AWESOME girl and that's perfect because she has an AWESOME mom!

Amy said...

Perfect:)

Jo said...

That's beautiful. :-)

LucisMomma said...

Really sweet. Made me cry. Tonggu Grammy, love your new "photo." :)

Kristi said...

We've been very open in discussing with the kids their entire stories. Lately my oldest has been saying a lot about how she must have been brave when she met me. I think she and your gal have a lot in common...

April said...

beautiful.

April said...

beautiful.

Debby said...

It is amazing that little children can remember the feelings that they had when they were very young. I discovered that when my adopted son was little. Once while taking his big sister to college (he was five) we were at the hotel waiting on room service. He got very hungry and had a meltdown. He was in the hall way freaking out. He wanted his food. His stomach was empty and that triggered feelings of being hungry. I imagine that your Tonga girl has feelings that she can only translate like she has. You should be proud that she made meeting her Mama a big milestone of memories. Does that make any sense. I am sure you understand what I am trying to say. ((((HUGS))))

Patty O. said...

Wonderful!

You know, I have to say, I really admire your little girl and her courage!

autumnesf said...

YOu know...I am now very curious as to whether or not MM has done the courage petal yet. I think they are on helpful. Maybe I should check this out...I'm curious as to just what she is going to say.

Chris said...

I think she handled this situation wonderfully!!
:)

Aunt LoLo said...

Glad everything turned out well!!

autumnesf said...

Hey - I tagged you in a post.

Paula O. said...

The fact that she possesses this language to be able to express herself makes me cry - in a good way.

Way to go, LT and way to go, TM. You both are so strong! Please tell LT how much I admire her.

MKBookWorks said...

Great!! We talk about a lot of things related to my two's adoption. Harder to talk about with my son - as his story is complex and he was older at adoption (approx 5) and so there are lots of questions.. not many answers. Frankly.. I think the better prepared we are the more helpful we can be. I stress that information is private - not secret - that it is up to them.. but they are learning that it is a big deal to trust people and that maybe somethings should stay in our family circle for the time being. Usually though - they are incredibly open and honest. Love that.

kitchu said...

tears in my eyes, lump in my throat. her words are a testament to the kind of parent you are TM. and to the very nature of who she is.

you have one.damn.amazing.kid.

윤선 said...

That's so cute! <3

anymommy said...

What an amazing story. I love the way you parent. I learn from you.

Rachel@just another day in paradise said...

I don't think there's any doubt that you're raising a self-confident, mature, self-accepting young lady. Way to go, mom and dad! PS How's 1st grade going?

Joanna B said...

I love that! I think you do such a good job as a mom! Maybe we'll see you at fcc one day soon!

Kim said...

Our little girl just started K and also Daiseys this fall. We were going through the Activity book and was looking at all of the flower petals.

She said basically the same thing as the Tongginator after I explained what courageous meant. When we got to Respect Authority and Being Responsible for own words and actions...yeah, well she asked if that meant having to do that just AT girl scouts, which of course I said no. She matter of factly stated, "Oh great, I'll *never* get those petals". Heh...