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Monday, August 24, 2009

Smart? I Think Not!

I would write an oh-so-eloquent post today, but I'm too busy laughing because Lisa thinks I'm smart. Heh. Smart-mouthed, maybe, but definitely not the smart involving brain synapses and whatnot. Because intelligent people don't come up with the oh-so-brilliant idea of assembling a play set at the end of summer... during the dog days of August... only one week before school begins... in the Humidity Capital of the United States.

Like I said, not too bright.

Especially when you realize that said play set arrived in 20 boxes via a delivery truck. TWENTY BOXES, y'all. It's enough to make me break into a sweat just thinking about it. Fortunately, my efforts mainly consisted of snapping photographs, filling water glasses and... hmm... that's pretty much about it. Because I *cough, cough* have asthma, you know. I can't possibly lift heavy things such as hammers and nails, much less big, beam-like thingies. Thank goodness for the husband and our favorite new college grad from down the street. They sweat their way through over 100 pages of instructions. The Tongginator's new play set...



... in about a day. The husband and said college grad spent the majority of that time swatting at mosquitoes and trying to rehydrate, since it was 93 degrees with 88% humidity (88! percent! humidity!). In between torturing small insects and guzzling Gatorade, they managed to work on the play set over the next few days until it was...


Doesn't it look gorgeous, y'all? I thought so, too, though the Tongginator did not. She wanted to know why she couldn't have the play set she spotted on the back page of the catalog.

yeah... this one doesn't belong to us

Um... maybe possibly... dear, sweet Tongginator... because that one happens to cost OVER TWENTY THOUSAND DOLLARS. I truly did not like her attitude. Oh no, I did not, especially when it didn't disappear immediately. I also didn't quite know how to deal with said attitude. Like I said, not too bright. So I did what any self-respecting momma would do when she wants to kill her child is at a loss for words.

I called my momma.

Tonggu Grammy suggested taking the Tongginator on a tour of the neighborhood play sets, so the Tongginator and I set off, hand in hand, walking amid a light summer rain. I dragged escorted her to nine different backyards, each time quietly asking, "is this play set bigger, smaller or about the same size as your play set?" Keeping up with the Joneses is SO not important to our family, but how else can one show a child that her Grand Ideas are not within the budgets of Every Single Family in our solidly middle class neighborhood? As the Tongginator analyzed each structure - many smaller, one larger, a few of comparable size - reality began to set in. Then I delivered the Tonggu Grammy suggested bomb...

"Tongginator, I don't EVER want to make you feel unhappy. I can tell, from your words and your attitude, that you would feel DISAPPOINTED and SAD playing on the new play set. So... while I am sure that the other children in our neighborhood will feel MORE THAN HAPPY to play on the new play set, you might need to think of other things to do while they play on it, since you are so very disappointed with it."

And wait for it...

MAJOR attitude adjustment. The Tongginator shifted from ingratitude to gratitude, from discontent to contentment, from sourness to joy. I may not be too bright, but my momma IS. And I love that about her. This weekend, the Tongginator thanked her daddy at least a dozen times. And the play set? It became the...

the Tongginator with our neighbors JC and Eeny

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44 comments:

Rhonda said...

First of all, *awesome* swingset, it's gorgeous! Can I come over and play? I'll bring lemonade...

$20,000? Seriously? Imagine how many boxes THAT one came in? It looks like it belongs at the Magic Kingdom (of the Damned). ;)

Johnny said...

Clever T-Granny. I refuse to go for the playset because it would cost about $5K in landscaping charges for us to level our backyard enough to put in a $1.5K playset. That's what schoolyards are for!

(And our daughter's schoolyard consists of the official schoolyard plus a small city park abutted right next to it)

Aunt LoLo said...

Yea for Grammies, yea for attitude adjustments...and YEA for swingsets with three swings! (Especially important when the MAJORITY of your friends are twins.;-)

Happy playing, Miss T!

Kim K. said...

What a great life lesson and I'm glad your new playset has become the neighborhood hangout.

bbmomof2boys said...

Its hard to adjust an attitude when your son's best friend has 5 brothers and sisters and his mom is divorced yet they have an inground pool, many many tech gadgets, go out to eat all the time, etc, etc. I point out to him that 1. She has her mother to help her out, 2. She gets support checks for 4 of the 6 kids, and 3. she has her MOTHER help out.

We also don't keep up with the Jones so why does my 16 yr old think he has to??!! :)

Hugs,
Carla

The Gang's Momma said...

LOL - ah, my friend. But you are so very smart. You knew JUST who to turn to for sage advice and guidance. A smart momma doesn't try that alone. :)

I love the playset - and I love that T learned a new perspective on that playset. Without a raging fit of irritated grouchiness from the Momma. Which is the route I would have likely chosen over the issue. (hanging head in shame)

Great Job, All of Ya! And may you have many happy, humidity free days to enjoy the set this coming fall :)

Jennifer said...

Don't let my own momma hear me say this, but you must be smart if you knew enough to take her advice! :)

happygeek said...

What on earth would we do without our mommas?

LaLa said...

Love the new playset! So happy the attitude adjustment came after all the hard work especially that went into building it : )

I think maybe the reason you know so many twins is b/c you will get a referral for twins!! (not sure that happens when you already have a child though)

Erin @ Closing Time said...

Don't forget! Not only does Lisa think you're smart, she also thinks you're funny! (And so do I!)

My 5 yr old is the same way. She picks out THE MOST EXPENSIVE play sets in the catalog...Usually the ones with a 2 or 3 level playhouse on top and several slides. It sounds like you handled it quite well!

Jboo said...

Such a cool swingset! Your Momma is so smart -- and so are you! Great idea and so happy to hear that your girl decided it to enjoy the new playset! Good job to the Hub and neighbor -- wow -- 20 boxes!!!
Have a fun week!

Janet

The Byrd's Nest said...

Your Momma is very smart and what a logical way to handle her attitude problem. Alas....I don't always think logically either in the beginning;)

Sharie said...

It must be the age!
I've been dealing with Amelia and her envy lately too!

The Gypsy Mama said...

Ok, mentally filing away T-Grammy's genius advice for future use. And major kudos to T-daddy for putting that behemoth together. I kid you not when I say that one of the sole reasons we have not invested in a playset is the thought of putting it together. Our marriage barely survived several Ikea products, a playset could ruin us for sure!

Buckeroomama said...

I wish I have the presence of mind to ask for sage advice when I'm at a loss for words with the little ones.

I'm glad that the T had a turnaround after your little "exercise." :)

kerri said...

Lovin' the new neighbourhood hangout!!

Blue said...

Way to go, Tonggu Daddy! Now that you're all warmed up, there's a little log house that needs some attention up north.....

Briana's Mom said...

I'm very impressed! TD did such a great job - and in the heat on top of it!

I believe that I live in the humidity capital of the USA though. I feel like I am walking through soup most days. ;)

Lisa RM said...

OK, forget kids- *I* want the big playground! That thing is awesome!

And so is grandma for coming up with a great way to handle the situation.

Kiy said...

What a great swing set! And hats are tipped all over America to TD and new college grad for putting it up - in August. Actually, I think you planned that perfectly. Had it been a nice cool spring day, there would have been no reason you couldn't have helped. Lisa isn't the only one that thinks you are brilliant (and I am mentally filling this away for the future!).

As to the new attitude, wow, I can see I am going to need to borrow TG. Maybe she should set up a new service - Dial-A-Grammy! - moms and dads could get the wisdom and good ideas that she can share, kids can get an extra little pat on the back or ear to tell their troubles to. Wow, she could even network this into and empire (just remind her that I would like my royalty checks sent to my new address, thanks).

Oh, and I *love* how you did the post, as part of 3 Word Sunday. Love it love it love it!

Cheers,

Kiy

Gail said...

Never knew there was such a thing as 'playset envy'...guess there is. Your mom's advice was perfect...love the wisdom of our moms don't you?

And it's always fun to be the neighborhood hangout...;)

That ginormous thing on the back of the catalog is obscene BTW, $20,000!!!!

Marla said...

That is an awesome play set and way to go Tonggu Daddy for getting that sucker put together!

That Tonggu Grammy is one smart lady. What would we do without our moms in these situations?

Have a great week!!!

Patricia/NYC said...

oooooh!!! Can we come over to YOUR backyard??!! We'll bring some good ol' fashioned bagels & lox straight from NYC!!! Pretty please?? ;)

Job well done!! Both with the construction of the set AND the attitude adjustment!! Way to go Tonggu Grammy! (Oh they are so wise, aren't they?)

jen@odbt said...

Thank goodness for TG. She is very wise. So now what to do with all the neighborhood kids in your yard? ;)

Annie said...

Very smart Grammy!!! When mine give me attitude like that I usually give them the old, "there are starving children in this world and you are upset because blah, blah, blah!!! The blah, blah, blah is probably just what they are hearing too!! LOL!!

Mamma Christine said...

Oh, I remember when we did this too! We got up at 6am to avoid a little of the humidity. Fortunately the neighbors live far enough away we didn't bother them TOO much with our pounding! Have fun. Ours has been worth it's weight in gold!

M3 said...

Can I have Tonggu Grammy's phone number or email addy? I'm going to need it for sure. Because I am always SEVERAL steps behind you, and can't even come close to some of the great things you come up with. I need serious help.

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

My word....I have never seen a play set so GRAND and $20K....I would hope for that price they put it together for you!!

Sounds like you handled the situation perfectly. I love TG's advice......what a clever lady!! You see, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. You ARE smart....just like your Momma:)

Glad that T and friends are breaking in the new set....looks like FUN!

Great 3WS...and kuddos to Tonggu Daddy and neighbors for putting it all together in the extreme heat.

Lisa

MoonNStarMommy said...

What a great lesson and so nice of your Mom to put you on the right track with that, after all - we'll get our life wisdom soon enough when our children start coming to us for advice!!

I'm stopping by via the the ICLW links :)

~Ifer said...

Shoot... even I want that expensive swingset! But what a great way to teach her the value of what she has, and to make her appreciate what you give her. Well done!

Kristy said...

First thing....I want the other one too!!!!

Second, sister that attitude is so much more pleasant at 13 ....just wait!!!! lol


Love, Kristy

Clare said...

Good one! It obviously worked a treat - great play set by the way!

Dita said...

#1 Tonggu Daddy is a SAINT
#2 College Teenager will probably never darken your doorstep, or block or perhaps your city after this "incident"
#3 Is Tonggu Granny for rent?

The swingset is fantastic and I can just see you dragging Little T around the neighborhood...I'm laughing real hard.

Janet said...

LOL! Well, I'm glad she's grateful now. I am forever giving my kids the patented, "There are children in this world who truly suffer" speech. I think my kids HATE those kids, just because they make them feel guilty. The thing is, I ACTUALLY MEAN IT when I give that speech. It makes me so mad when my son turns his nose up over his meal when I saw STARVATION. Real babies, dying. And one did. So I'm afraid my children will have to deal with my patented speech FOREVER. Because I will never be able to forget.

Okay, that was a bit of a rant, after your funny post.

PS- Great playset!!!!!

Mom to 5...Daughter of the King said...

Well done! We don't try to keep up with Jonses either, but boy kids do at an early age!

a little leprechaun said...

Does TongaGrandma have a hotline?!?!? We are having similiar issues with a certain someone in our household. LOVE how you handled it. Thank you for the idea!!!

What's really funny is we've been looking for playsets too!! Too funny!!

Saint Louis Family Robinson said...

Oh come on! Who wouldn't want the Mega-Princess Playset that glows from within!!!! LOL!

The beginning of this post reminded me of our playset saga... it took six weekends to complete, but it was so worth it. Josie takes pride in telling everyone "My Daddy made my playset! And I helped!" That was two years ago... I'm sure with her now 4.5 year old attitude of More is Better (or Bigger is Better), she would probably say and do the same thing as the Tongginator.

As for your Mama... Wow, she is a smart one! I am going to put that 'tool' in my toolbelt! I'm sure I'm going to need it one day.

Patty O. said...

That "dream" play set would probably take months and 25 years of construction experience to set up!

I love, love, love your mom's idea. I am so gonna have to use it when my kids cop an attitude about what they want. That was pure brilliance!

Kristi said...

I'm so using that strategy next time we have a "but I want..." meltdown!

Gerbil said...

LOL, don't they always manage to find the Bentley model when you're going for a Honda?

And I remain in awe that TongguDaddy did not succumb to the heat and humidity and melt into a sticky puddle. Its been downright evil out there.

Colleen said...

I think your pretty darn smart!!!! You handled it beautifully. I would of said something intelligent like "get over it, this is what you got". LOL
I am very impressed with Daddy who put this together...my dh paid Rainbow to put it together LOL
Love the swingset...looks like so much fun!!!!

Cavatica said...

Sadly, I covet my neighbor's play sets and my daughter couldn't care less. She's perfectly happy with ours. Maybe when she's older she'll covet like me. Ours is old and ugly and I hate it and I am drooling over yours. Why can't I follow my daughter's lead?

Jean said...

I so miss my Momma- I love hearing about yours!! Gee she is probably my age and she could probably be my friend- too bad she doesn't live in the Northern midwest- God's country! Brrrrrr

We are so wanting a swingset here at our house. 2 yrs ago we put a down payment on it... still hasn't happened... I do have to say when it arrives we will not be assembling it. That is not my hubby's thing- actually I don't think he could bear hours of me telling him which piece to connect next! Instead, we want to make it to 27 years of marriage!

We love the Tongginators new swingset- lucky girl!!

Michelle said...

Oh my!! Totally cracking up. Your Mom and I are so on the same page. That sounds like exactly what I would have said!

And a big shout out to Tonggu Daddy for putting those 20 boxes together. Nice job, TM, on the photos. he he