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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Spoilage Alert

We headed to my parents house yesterday and will be here til late this evening. Because SOMEONE has to work late quite a bit this week. Not mentioning any names Husband. I don't have much time for blogging (for obvious reasons), but I thought I'd list for y'all the top five ways Tonggu Grammy completely and totally spoiled the Tongginator yesterday.

1. The Tongginator didn't eat ANY veggies for lunch or dinner.

2. Tonggu Grammy giggled and beamed smiles at the Tongginator when she learned that said Tongginator failed to fall asleep until nearly 10 PM the night before... because little Miss T was "too egg-sike-ted about seeing Grammy tomorrow."

3. Tonggu Grammy bought the Tongginator an italian ice treat for dessert, despite the decided lack of green veggie consumption.

4. Tonggu Grammy pushed little Miss T on the swings for well over 20 minutes, even though the Tongginator can easily pump herself now.

5. The Colonel and Tonggu Grammy offered a five-year-old Tongginator the chance to steer their new boat. (Give me a heart attack, why dontcha?) Thankfully the Tongginator declined. Oh, and I'm sure some of you are wondering about the name of their new boat. Despite all y'alls incredibly creative suggestions, the Colonel opted to go with a safe, boring play-on-words that includes their surname and the word "den." Sigh. I just don't understand why he didn't select the name Divorce. Because THAT is classy.

Heh.

We still have at least 12 hours here. Please help me avoid a slow and painful death from Tonggu Grammy's Powerful Stink Eye... I need you to share with us how your parents (or in-laws) totally and completely surpass Tonggu Grammy in the spoiling department. Because then my momma will be too busy gloating to try to kill me. Death by glare is NOT the way I want to go.

Especially when it's my momma doing the glaring.

23 comments:

happygeek said...

My mom still hand feeds my 3 year old when he "feels tired."
We see juice as empty calories and don't give the boys juice. My mom gives it to them every afternoon she's with them to help raise their blood sugar levels. They've totally conned her on this one, "nana, I tired, dooce please."
My dad feeds them pop. (Soda) There isn't a hope I'm giving it to them till they are much older.
My then 5 month old was given ice cream as his very first solid. Thanks dad.
They are allowed as many movies as their little hearts desire when at Poppa and Nana's.
My dad makes speicla trips to the neighbouring town, just to take the boys to a pet store so they can enjoy the puppies.
My mom sews jammies for the boys and always picks fabric based on their current loves. (Puppies, stars, dinos, etc.)
When my parents are watching them bedtime is rather "flexible".

There's more, but we don't want to give TG too many ideas!

Briana's Mom said...

My mom is the queen of spoiling her granddaughter. Seriously. Every time she sees Briana, she has a "treat" for her. Every. single. time. They are usually small "treats" but still treats none the less. And Gramma floods Briana will love, kisses and attention. Briana LOVES her Gramma.

My mom waited a very long time for her first grandchild. So, I'm letting her indulge for a little while. :)

The Source said...

Well...my dad doesn't see my kids often. My decision, and for good reasons. But every time he DOES see them, he hands them money. Like hundred dollar bills. Hey, now that they're teenagers...no prob! Hand them gas money if it makes you happy! But how do you explain to a 5 yr old that they can't blow all that $$? Plus, do you really need to bribe your grandkids to like you?

The other grands all do the same things as most...stuff them full of junk, let them stay up all night, take their sides in the argument FOR a car...but I figure my kids are getting old enough that I'll be paying all of this back...at least to the older ones...in about 10 years. And I'm looking forward to it!!

sara said...

You are so brave! We avoid parents/inlaws at all costs!

Aunt LoLo said...

Heheh....nobody can spoil like my MIL can spoil!

When she is here, she spoils me (I don't cook a single meal while she's here!!), she spoils Lo Gung (she cooks all his favorite foods and serves him peeled and cut fruit every night before bed), she spoils BBJ (she follows her around, hunched over, catering to her EVERY WHIM and playing her EVERY GAME). Oh, and don't think FIL doesn't get in on the action - that poor man pushes BBJ around on her push cart for half an hour at a time, even though she's perfectly capable of walking herself around. The towers they build, the catering...it's impossible to deal with her for three days after they leave! hehe

Feel better yet? ;-)

Aunt LoLo said...

Heheh....nobody can spoil like my MIL can spoil!

When she is here, she spoils me (I don't cook a single meal while she's here!!), she spoils Lo Gung (she cooks all his favorite foods and serves him peeled and cut fruit every night before bed), she spoils BBJ (she follows her around, hunched over, catering to her EVERY WHIM and playing her EVERY GAME). Oh, and don't think FIL doesn't get in on the action - that poor man pushes BBJ around on her push cart for half an hour at a time, even though she's perfectly capable of walking herself around. The towers they build, the catering...it's impossible to deal with her for three days after they leave! hehe

Feel better yet? ;-)

Blue said...

A friend at church spoils little G by bringing him a treat every Sunday. Which he eats in addition to wolfing down tons of snacks at coffee hour. He makes a point of coming to find me, dances around, and chants, "Mrs. L totally spoils me!" and then darts away into the post-service coffee hour crowd.
She loves my boy. And I love her for that.

Myrnie said...

Hmm...first off, I have the sweetest, best, most talented in-laws in the world. :o)

BUT, it just kills me when they smile at Ernie's sass, give in to changes of mind and demand/requests, and...make her feel valued and loved. Sigh. Maybe they're onto something?

adoptionroad said...

My friend described the transition (after the GPUs leave) as "detox". It takes her kids at least a week to get all that sugar out of their system. My mom spoils my girls with attention... and gives ME the sweets and treats instead. ;-)

jen@odbt said...

My parents bend over backwards for the grandkids. It's ridiculous b/c they don't seem like the same parents I grew up with. My dad is the king of "hey want to get donuts or Mickey Ds" and of course the kids are all over it. I end up looking like the bad guy when I say no.

Jboo said...

Oh my - Grands are supposed to spoil the kids! Hope you're having fun!

Janet

KiT said...

The main "spoilage" that happens at the in-laws involves a major nemisis of ours- SUGAR. The cousins are allowed to eat vast quantities of sugar all day long. Popsicles for breakfast? Sure! Soda and kool aide all day? Why not! The cousins have a super high tolerance for the sugary, dyed, high frutose corn syrup crap and I ain't their momma, so...

B gets to eat sweet things just about every day. But we are careful about the quantities and the quality of the treat. You give my girly artificially dyed and sugary junk and 5-4-3-2-1 BLAST OFF! She goes into outer space! Sassiness, tantrums, oh my! And she doesn't metabolize the junk either. It sits in her system and turns my darling girl into a {a-hem} not so darling girl for a couple of days.

So it is always a battle when she stay with the in-laws to have the other kids not eat that junky junk in front of B. Or for me to convince her that "hey this Wh@le F@@ds" cookie is BETTER than their candy-popsicle-soda!"

And did I mention we are getting ready to stay with them for a couple of weeks? ;)

Tonggu Grammy said...

Personally, I don't think I spoil her. That would mean she's rotten and we all know that aint true! I merely make her life pleasant in oh so many ways.

One day without veggies 'cause we're eating Subway subs for lunch and at a Mexican restaurant for dinner won't destroy her. No excuse for the Italian Ice except I thought she might like it. OOPS!

bbmomof2boys said...

Hey TG - you go right ahead and keep spoiling her!! I spoil my granddaughter when I see her too (even when I don't see her. Her dad calls up and says "can I get Baby H...and I say go get it!) That's what we grandmas do...so we gotta stick together!

Sorry 'bout that TM!!

Hugs,
Carla

The Gang's Momma said...

My MIL cuts the crusts off sandwiches still, sneaks them chocolates between meals, and gives them the gift of doing all their jobs for them when she's around. Even if I ask them quietly behind her back, by name to do a chore. I despise that they have all figured it out and wait just a "millisecond" longer than they should so that she jumps up to do it when they've been asked.

I ask you: HOW do I tell my MIL to sit her fanny down and let Shaggy take out the nasty garbage like I asked?!

I'm still workin' on that one!

Patricia/NYC said...

Love this post, TM!
Hmmm, let's see, off the top of my head...my mom hides Dove chocolate eggs in her pockets & "slips" them to all her grandkids when she thinks we parents are not looking...sigh...

My MIL A.L.W.A.Y.S. gives Kiara a GIGANTIC sized dessert...way bigger than anyone else's & says, "Oh, it's just a little bit"
Ahhh...grandparents...someday it WILL be our turn, right? lol!

Michelle said...

Um, when MAM was going through some food allergy issues and couldn't eat just regular french fries from a restaurant, my parents bought us a DEEP FRYER. Because, in my mom's words, "Michelle, we just want her to be happy." Nothing says happiness like deep fried goodness.

My FIL ALWAYS brings toys when he visits. He brought JR. a LARGE stuffed horse on his adoption day. Nothings says "it's official" like a large plush horse that is wider than a doorway.

I feel ya.

CC said...

My son has a countdown calendar until we go to see Grandma. He thinks that she rocks.

PS: can the Tongginator please teach The Flash how to pump???

Sharie said...

My Dad passed away when Amelia was only 2, but he spoiled her with lots of love and hugs...and ANYTHING she wanted to eat:) Boy do we miss him.

My parents have 13 grandchildren...Amelia is lucky 13...They ALL preferred my Dad over my Mom...until Amelia. We joke that I had to go to China to find a grandchild that likes GMA better than GPA.

My Mom is ALWAYS busy - but when Amelia is there she will stop doing whatever it is that "needs" to be done in order to play with her. She does things she NEVER would have done wit us, going up in the playhouse with her no matter how hot or cold it is outside, getting in the kiddie roller coaster at Chuck E Cheese with her, dropping EVERYTHING to make waffles. You name it.

I guess Amelia is pretty lucky. I am CERTAIN that my Mom has spent more hours playing with her than the other 13 grandkids combined.

SO the minute I say no, not now...guess who's house Miss Amelia wants to go to?

Carla said...

MIL creates an entire "Pirates Den" in her walk in closet, complete with surprises for each day (wrapped), and a treasure map to that days fun outing place. She follows this with tons of cookies, ice cream, rice crispie treats, popsicles, A&W Cream Soda, and as much fruit as they want (after all fruit is healthy right?). No green veggies have to pass their lips, even if they are there for a week. I truly believe they survive on chips, cereal, hot dogs, pizza, fruit, and treats ALL WEEK LONG.

That doesn't even START on the "Boys Day" that they have had.

Katie? Oh she is starting to get HER way...MIL let her put on makeup.

My mom? I think she might be worse. My Mom takes the kids to a waterpark, or a theme park, or any other various outings. She doesn't enforce veggies at all...but at least she's not feeding them endless supply of treats. They probably live on chicken nuggets, chips, hot dogs, pizza, and spaghetti with her. ;) The neighborhood kids all call her Grandma too, and she has PLENTY of treats for all.

We call the 1-2 weeks after a visit with grandparents, "Deprogramming" the kids. It's not so much detox, as it is deprogramming them to having 100% constant adoring attention. KWIM?

mumma to many said...

I say with 2 sets of Grandparents not capable of spoiling let it happen!
Also those who are choose not too!
We have Aiden's Birth family that include but don't spoil! That is ok!
I remember when Aiden was little Nana used to peel his apples for him. Take him to the movies and generally have a blast that was after Gramps died and Aiden is always great company 1 on 1 doing fun things!
Now my girls go to see Nana at the rest home and love playing memory with the cards!
It is those memories that build the type of people they want to be when they grow up.
Any grandparent that wants to indulge go for it and we should enjoy it!
As for those that give money the rule in our house is save 50% and they can spend 50% even if it is slowly.
Hugs Ruth in NZ

autumnesf said...

Mom leave huge bowls of candy out all over the house!! This has now stopped since she actually witnessed my daughter having to pull over and puke all the way home from Tx to Nebraska. Got the picture finally.

And my kids get to do all the messy, fun things with grandma that we weren't allowed to do with her because of the mess (planting, cooking certain things, etc.).

I can't wait til I'm a grandma and get to do all the same stuff!

RamblingMother said...

my dad lets G drive his pickup truck from his lap around the yard, as well as the mower. He will also get the mower out just because she asked to ride around on it. He never would have allowed that with us.