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Thursday, May 1, 2008

Waiting 4 China Stork

How to prepare for China-adoption referrals, Tonggu Momma style:

Wear your Ladybug Socks because they symbolize good luck in many cultures. At the current rate of referrals, we need all of the luck we can get. If your ladybug socks happen to be dirty, either wear them anyway or settle for wearing your cute Panda Socks. Or, goodness, why not act Wild and Crazy, wearing one of each to mix up!

Pray for sanity.

Drink copious amounts of coffee or tea using your China Flag mug or some other China-related mug. Doing this will ensure you feel a gamut of emotions, ranging from torture to comfort, but it's a mandatory Tonggu Momma ritual. Why? The reason might possibly stem from a much-needed caffeine high, but who exactly knows why Tonggu Momma does the things she does?

Pray for patience.

Check Rumor Queen obsessively because most some of the forum members know the latest dirt. Try hard to avoid believing anything lower than an R4, and definitely guard your heart even if the rumor rates as an R5. Continually chant, "Only God knows!"

Pray for a forgiving attitude towards the CCAA. (For you non-China adoptive parents, the CCAA is the Chinese Center for Adoption Affairs. The name is pretty self-explanatory, yes?)

You may wish to email call your social worker continuously for the next few days until your adoption agency formally announces the referral cut-off date. Did they get through ten days? Miraculous! Or only three to five days, which is now the status quo? It doesn't matter if your log-in date (LID) is dated too far out to make this logical. Needless calling during each referral cycle will ensure that your social worker calls you first when it IS your turn, if only to avoid an emotional train wreck your impatience.

Pray for peace and contentment.

Analyze the proportion of Black Rocks versus Greenish Rocks you should remove from your Wait Jar. Black Rocks symbolize the Really Terrible Months, such as April 2007, when the CCAA only referred two days of LIDs. It's tempting to pull out Black Rocks each month, since lately they all feel dismal, but remember to pace yourself. How many LIDs stand between you and the front of the line? Think ahead!

Pray for the children who continue to wait for families.

If you are close enough to the front of the line, and you won't need to update your homestudy before travel, then feel free to gorge yourself on chocolate, chips, or how about one of my personal favorites - chocolate chips! If you will require an update to your homestudy, avoid at all costs any fattening foods. Remember that pesky new weight limit! Instead, engage in calorie-burning, therapeutic activity: exercise, garden, beat your head against the wall... whatever works for you!

Pray for those who continue to hang on by that very thin Red Thread!

In case you've failed to figure it out after reading all about my bizarre rituals... that would be me! I'm hanging by a very thin red thread at the moment. And we probably have eighteen months to two years left to wait!


Dawn said...

My heart really goes out to you during this very long wait. I can't believe they are being so slow. It doesn't make a lot of sense to me. I don't even have any good advice for you. I wish I did. Just know that no matter how long it takes, you will get your child eventually and in the end it will be worth it.

Cheri H said...

Praying for you and all the other waiting parents. (( HUGS )) I wish I could take you out for coffee and chat.

Fliss and Mike Adventures said...

Stumbled across your site... you gotta love the paperwork... I just passed my 2 year mark... ahh... gotta love this wait... take care

Special K said...

I prefer my personal favorite...chocolate covered potato chips. Yes they really do exist and are delish. Much less effort if you can get it all in one bite. Or 10..whatever.

CC said...

Super hugs. I ended up with anxiety attacks during wait for #1.

Mamatini said...

Hmm, when we were waiting for our Tonggu girl, I noticed a plethora of silver Jeeps, just before referral. Hey, you never know!